My journey has not always been an easy one, I’ve battled like many with internal thoughts and doubts like most people (and I’m not saying it’s all skipping about in meadows currently), but I’ve gained a new lease of life – a sense of confidence in myself.
I’d love to tell you some quick, simple and easy steps of how to gain confidence, but realistically there is no quick fix. For me if was a long and arduous journey. It involved relationships, breakups, going through attempted diets (they lasted like a week…), and finding myself at University.
But here are some things that helped me through the whole process;
Take time for yourself – To love yourself you really need to treat yourself properly. You’re never going to really appreciate yourself if you don’t actually appreciate yourself…
Dress for your shape – Now I’m no expert in this field, but take the most flattering part of your body and accentuate it. Now I was always one of those people who hated my arms, but had a fairly slim waist… so I would wear clothes with sleeves, that cinched in at the waist. However, as you can see, I’m not so self conscious of it now… but I still know certain things I hate on me – low rise jeans, skirts below the knees, to name a few.
Surround yourself with people to love you – possibly easier said than done, I know. But you’re never going to learn to accept yourself if no one around you does.
Eat well – I always feel my worse just after I eat an entire box of JaffaCakes.. not saying I’m not going to eat an entire box of JaffaCakes, because let’s face it, they taste too good. But, if I’m feeling a little down, actually stuffing my face full of sugar really isn’t the answer.
Makeup – Now… I am not saying you need to wear makeup to be beautiful or to accept yourself or any of that rubbish. However, makeup is designed to help accentuate your facial features and to hide blemishes. And, while this is not the complete answer, putting on some makeup does make me feel better on the days I really didn’t think I could.
It takes time – This isn’t necessarily a tip, just a reminder. You can’t change your opinion of yourself over night. That just isn’t possible. It took a long time for me to come to accept myself, and I still have off days. But, realistically it came with age… I know I’m only 22.. but I look back at myself when I was 16 and I have changed so much, it’s almost terrifying. So, things just take time, give yourself time, and don’t beat yourself up when you don’t suddenly feel better in 24 hours.
How do you make yourself feel a little more confident?