This is a first! I was contacted a few weeks ago by Zara, a freelance writer who loves to write about things that mean a lot to her; predominantly lifestyle and beauty. These are her tips and tricks to helping you to be a happier person. Enjoy!
Love myself I do. Not everything, but I love the good as well as the bad. I love my crazy lifestyle, and I love my hard discipline. I love my freedom of speech and the way my eyes get dark when I’m tired. I love that I have learned to trust people with my heart, even if it will get broken. I am proud of everything that I am and will become.
– Johnny Weir
The lifestyles we lead are direct consequences of our behaviours and wounds; we are all sons and daughters of our past choices and all that we are deserves to be loved and appreciated, pushed for better actions and better futures. We owe it to ourselves, to our future selves to start that long-desired change and become who we’ve always known we can be.
What’s The Starting Point?
Mental decision and the emotional breakage from destructive behaviours – that’s where you begin. It is very difficult to break habits and patterns; they have an immense power to suck you in, get you thinking there’s no way out. No matter how banal or serious these patterns are, they’re there, and they’re ruling your life – from eating way too much candy and sleeping till 2PM to refusing to work on your emotional/psychological issues, the struggle is evident, but – imminent. And, with just a little effort, you’ll get to a point of happiness.
As the wise Confucius said it – Life is really simple, but we insist on making it complicated. This is your time to uncomplicated your life.
Say “Goodbye” Gracefully
What’s very typical for most people you’ll meet (and this probably includes you) is that they tend to stay in relationships that don’t make them happy. Habit is a very dangerous life-drug that can cost you way more than solitude/being on your own might.
If you’ve spent quite some time in a romantic relationship that stopped making you happy a long time ago, it’s time you say goodbye. You might think nobody else will love you or that no one ever again will understand your flaws, your work hours, your quirks – but they will. Don’t suffocate your soul by staying in a place that’s not meant for you.
The same rule applies to friendships; emotional vampires (i.e. people who suck out all of your positive energy and don’t share your happiness in/for life) aren’t the people to have around, even if you’ve been friends for years. Rip that bandage off!
Eliminate toxic behaviours
If you’re aware of your toxic behaviours, good – it’ll be easier to eliminate them. Start one by one; make an honest list (yes, an actual list) and go. What qualifies as bad habits, you ask? Things like way too much drinking, substance abuse, not taking care of your body, emotional introversion, aspects of your behaviours/temper (i.e. you easily get annoyed, you let people bagger you into actions, you constantly feel insecure, etc.), destructive day-to-day habits, etc.
If you are aware you’ve got things that are setting you back but you are unable to define them yourself, entrust the mission to the person who knows you best or your therapist. Once the list is done, start finding the solutions.
Embrace Health As The Only Choice
In the 21st century it seems almost impossible to eat healthy and exercise regularly, especially if you’ve got two or more jobs lined up; but, there’s a way – always.
Again, just as you’ll be eliminating some destructive behaviours (slowly, but steadily), do the same with the bad food you eat. Replace fried, sugary products and everything comes in a bag with fresh vegetables and fruits, lean meats and nuts. If you can’t make it to the gym, wake up at 5AM and go for a run and/or invest in Inspire ft2 machine home gym equipment; that way, you’ll always have the way to squeeze a workout in and keep your physique (and health) thriving.
Nurture Your Inner World
Unless you’re happy within, all other efforts will fail. Everything we do is a direct consequence of how we feel and to learn to be in control of your feelings means constant work and dedication.
Find the time for yourself, if it’s even an hour or two a day and do things that make you happy – paint, knit, write, cook, go out, read… Go to beauty salons, organise lunches with friends, go shopping. Invest in therapy sessions, at least once a week and talk about things that burden you. Begin a life of honesty with yourself, and you’ll go a long way.
One way to get the most out of life is to look upon it as an adventure – and your adventure towards improvement is right in front of you.